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Confidence: a critical skill

Confidence: a critical skill: how do you view the person in the mirror? Successful people know to care and pamper their confidence levels continuously.

Definition of confidence: a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or of reliance on one’s circumstances. Merriam-Webster

Self-confidence and self-esteem are interchangeable terms.

Why is confidence so important?

If you are confident, people believe you, confidence as a critical skill is attractive, brings success, helps to connect well with others and you generally feel happier. Pearl of Contentment Retreat

Children with high self-confidence perform better at school and, later in life, have higher job satisfaction in middle age.  Self-esteem is also strongly linked to happiness, with higher levels of self-esteem predicting higher levels of happiness.  High self-confidence has even been found to increase the chances of survival after a serious surgical procedure. (Mann et al., 2004).

Here are 3 sets of characteristics of people with high confidence:

Set no 1: 10 Characteristics of people with high confidence

When you see these characteristics reflected in yourself and your actions, you will know you have arrived:

i. They appreciate themselves and other people.

ii. They enjoy growing as a person and finding fulfilment and meaning in their lives.

iii. Are able to dig deep within themselves and be creative.

iv. They make their own decisions and conform to what others tell them to be and do only when they agree.

v. They see the world in realistic terms, accepting other people the way they are, while pushing themselves to change in a more positive and confident direction.

vi. Can easily concentrate on solving problems in their lives.

vii. Their relationships are loving and respectful.

viii. They have thought about what their values are, identified them, and live according to these values every day.

ix. They speak up, calmly and kindly telling others their opinions and what their own wants and needs are.

x. Endeavour to make a constructive difference in other people’s lives.

S. Renee Smith, Vivian Harte

Set no 2: 10 Characteristics of people with high self-esteem

A. Leaders with a clear vision

B. Guided by strong principles

C. Goal-oriented

D. Believe in themselves

E. Problem-solvers

F. Take care of themselves

G. Great with people

H. Transparent

I. Flexible

J. Live in the present   Paul Thomas  Self help for Life

Set no 3: 13 characteristics of people with high self-esteem

1. Believe in themselves and have confidence in their own abilities.

2. Know what they want or need and are able to communicate these needs and wants to others.

3. Effective communication skills.

4. Drive to succeed.

5. Comfortable with change and enthusiastically seek out new opportunities and are open to embracing new ideas.

6. Enjoy good healthy relationships and can accept constructive criticism, without letting it dent their confidence.

7. Goal-oriented.  They are focused on self-improvement and success and are good at planning and setting goals as well as achieving them.

8. Able to laugh at their self.  We all do silly things and life happens. They do not fret and worry about it – they just laugh it off.

9. Taking care of themselves physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually:

9.1 exercising and eating well,

9.2 clearing negative emotions,

9.3 reading, learning new things and

9.4 meditating on the Bible, being in silence, or praying.

Rich Cavaness

Benefits people with high confidence have:

Two primary benefits of confidence: it naturally makes you happier and helps you be more successful. When you dig down deeper to identify more specific ( 11 ) benefits that are also worth appreciating you find them and they are:

i. Greater self-worth: the more self-confidence you have, the more you value yourself and your capabilities, which means the more valuable you feel and creates the effect of naturally holding your head up high.

ii. More happiness and enjoyment: the more self-confident you are, the happier you are with yourself; as a result, the more you always enjoy life.

iii. Freedom from self-doubt: the more self-confident you become, the more free you become of the mental torture of doubting yourself, and questioning whether you’re ‘really’ valuable.

iv. Greater strength and capabilities: the more self-confident you are, the stronger and more powerful you feel; you grow stronger and more confident when encountering challenges.

v. Freedom from fear and anxiety: the more self-confident you become, the more you know that you can accept, handle, learn, gain, and benefit from any situation.

Benefits continue…

vi. Freedom from social anxiety: the more secure you feel in your self-worth, the less concerned you are with what others might or might not think of you in social situations.

vii. More peace of mind and less stress: freedom from self-doubt, fear, and anxiety naturally translates into greater peace of mind and a more stress-free life.

viii. Increased energy and motivation to act: the more confident you are that you can achieve your goals, the more motivated and energized you are to take action to achieve them.

ix. More beneficial and enjoyable interactions with others: the happier & more confident you are, the more relaxed, comfortable, and at ease you are.

x. Better sleep & health: less fear and anxiety + less stress + more peace of mind + more happiness = you enjoying the health benefits of being more self-confident.

xi. Greater success: self confident people are naturally more successful, there is such a high correlation between self-confidence and success. Each of the above benefits helps you achieve your goals faster and easier. That means you enjoy more success in life. Dave Fonvielle  

Confidence: a critical skill

12 More benefits of people with great confidence:

1. Being your best under stress. Athletes, musicians and actors will attest to the importance of a high level of confidence. When you are confident, you perform up to your potential.

2. Influencing others. Self-confident people often influence others more readily. This helps when selling an idea or product or negotiating at work or home.

3. Having leadership and executive presence. Self-confidence plays a big part in leadership and executive presence. You create such presence by how you think, act and use your voice.

4. Exuding a more positive attitude. You believe you have an important and meaningful place in the world, giving you a positive attitude.

5. Feeling valued. When you are confident, you know what you excel at and that you have value.

6. Rising to the top. Looking for a promotion? The more confidence you have, the more likely you are to be promoted.

Benefits continue…

7. Being sexier. “Did you know that confidence is sexy? I wrote an article about it, which I published on my website and on It’s one of my most popular articles, and it cracks me up that Google ranks me as number one for the keyword “confidence is sexy.””

8. Reducing negative thoughts. Greater self-confidence allows you to experience freedom from self-doubt and negative thoughts about yourself.

9. Experiencing more fearlessness and less anxiety. Greater confidence makes you more willing to take smart risks and more able to move outside your comfort zone.

10. Having greater freedom from social anxiety. Becoming more comfortable being yourself reduces concern about what others might think of you. How liberating!

11. Gaining energy and motivation to take action. The more highly motivated and energized you are, the more likely you are to take immediate action.

12. Being happier. Confident people tend to be happier and more satisfied with their lives than people who lack self-confidence. Dr TC North  

Confidence: a critical skill

How to gain confidence & maintain that: 22 hints

A. Have positive mind chatter & believe you are a good person.

B. Learn to like, respect & love yourself.

C. Be social.

D. Go outside of your comfort zone & have a go.

E. Remain goal orientated & be proud of your achievements.

F. Accept complements.

G. Do things your good at.

H. Consider yourself & know you are a good person.

I. Spoil yourself.

J. Present clean & tidy.

K. Accept you & others are not perfect, you make mistakes, but accept responsibility.

L. Be happy & know you deserve it.

M. Accept who you are.

N. Do things you enjoy.

O. Do not put things off.

P. Have gratitude.

Q. Be a kind person.

R. Look forward to life & the future.

S. Feel you are in control & have the power to change things.

T. Look for solutions to challenges & ways to achieve success.

U. Encourage people around you & respect their views.

V. Respect your own views & stand up for yourself assertively.

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Quotes about confidence: a critical skill

“Faith is a living, daring confidence in God’s grace, so sure and certain that a man could stake his life on it a thousand times.” Martin Luther

“In fact, the confidence of the people is worth more than money.” Carter G. Woodson

“When you have a lot of confidence and you feel like nobody can beat you, it’s game over for everyone else.” Jason Day

“As is our confidence, so is our capacity.” William Hazlitt

“Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence.” Vince Lombardi

“When you have confidence, you can do anything.” Sloane Stevens

“Confidence is a lot of this game or any game. If you don’t think you can, you won’t.” Jerry West

“Confidence comes from hours and days and weeks and years of constant work and dedication.” Robert Staubach

“The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.” Blake Lively

Quotes = words of wisdom

“Confidence… thrives on honesty, on honour, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

“Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear.” Norman Vincent Peale

“Confidence is the most important single factor in this game, and no matter how great your natural talent, there is only one way to obtain and sustain it: work.” Jack Nicklaus

“I’ve always had confidence. It came because I have lots of initiative. I wanted to make something of myself.” Eddie Murphy

“Successful people often exude confidence – it’s obvious that they believe in themselves and what they’re doing. It is not their success that makes them confident, however. The confidence was there first.” Travis Bradberry

“Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.” Henry Ford

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. “ Dale Carnegie

“It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures. “ Oprah Winfrey

“Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy.” Brian Tracy

“With the realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” Dalai Lama

Confidence: a critical skill