Resilience is a skill that you most need in today’s life with all its challenges. Technology and creative innovations all over the place are causing big stress on you to keep up with the pace. The only way for you to be resilient today with the all changes is through/with skill enhancement.
Definition: Psychology Today describes it this way: “Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes.” In a nutshell, resilience can be defined as the ability – and tendency – to “bounce back.”
The importance of resilience
Joshua Miles lists a few of the wide range of reasons that resilience is a great trait to have:
Greater resilience leads to improved learning and academic achievement.
Resilience is related to lower absences from work or school due to sickness.
It contributes to reduced risk-taking behaviors including excessive drinking, smoking, and use of drugs.
Those with greater resilience tend to be more involved in the community and/or family activities.
Higher resilience is related to a lower rate of mortality and increased physical health (2015). Positive Psychology
Resilience is important because it gives you the strength needed to process and overcome hardship. Those lacking resilience get easily overwhelmed and may turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms. Resilient people tap into their strengths and support systems to overcome challenges and work through problems. Katie Hurley
7 Cs of Resilience
Ken Ginsburg, developed the 7 Cs model and the American Academy of Paediatrics summarizes the 7 Cs as follows:
Competence This is the ability to know how to handle situations effectively. To build competence, individuals develop a set of skills to help them trust their judgments and make responsible choices.
Confidence Dr. Ginsburg says that true self-confidence is rooted in competence. Individuals gain confidence by demonstrating competence in real-life situations.
Connection Close ties to family, friends, and community provide a sense of security and belonging.
Character Individuals need a fundamental sense of right and wrong to make responsible choices, contribute to society, and experience self-worth.
Contribution Ginsburg says that having a sense of purpose is a powerful motivator. Contributing to one’s community reinforces positive reciprocal relationships.
Coping When people learn to cope with stress effectively, they are better prepared to handle adversity and setbacks.
Control Developing an understanding of internal control helps individuals act as problem-solvers instead of victims of circumstance. When individuals learn that they can control the outcomes of their decisions, they are more likely to view themselves as capable and confident. Everyday Health
How do I know I am resilient?
You hold yourself accountable
Resilient people don’t blame others or outside forces for their problems. They cultivate a healthy sense of personal responsibility, which allows them to tackle problems head on instead of wallowing in despair.
Do not complain
An occasional venting session is fine, but anyone with grit knows that complaining gets you nowhere. Resilience is all about having a good attitude.
You are self-aware
If you are going to navigate stormy seas, you’ve got to really know and trust yourself. Resilient people practice mindfulness and cultivate self-awareness.
Accept your limits
The key to grit is accepting that you’re neither perfect nor limitless. You’ve got to accept your weaknesses along with your strengths in order to adapt to trying situations.
You are not afraid to ask for help
Anyone with grit knows that asking for help isn’t the same as asking for hand-outs. Even the most successful people could use some assistance once in a while. Part of being resilient is being strong enough to ask for it.
You never wallow
Wallowing in your sorrows is just about the worst thing you can do in a bad situation. Resilient people know to grieve their losses, make a plan, and move on.
Do not compare yourself to others
Everyone has their own hidden struggles and their own definitions of success. Measuring yourself against your neighbor is futile and potentially harmful.
You find humour in the absurd
Life is terrible sometimes, but you can’t let go of your sense of humor. You’ve got to be able to laugh at yourself and the often confusing, painful nature of reality. It’s truly the best medicine for getting through tough situations.
Know you cannot plan everything
You never know what life is going to throw at you next. People with grit accept this and are willing to be flexible. If you’re too locked into one path or one plan, you’re liable to fall apart when things go wrong.
You cultivate a support system
Resilient people are usually not lone wolves. They have a trusted network of people who they know they can depend on during troubled times.
You take care of yourself
Grittiness isn’t just about enduring hardship. You’ve got to prepare for it too. In order to become strong enough to weather adversity, you’ve got to practice self-care and make yourself a priority from time to time. Áine Cain Business Insider
10 tips for building resilience in children and teens
Teach your child the importance of engaging and connecting with their peers, including the skill of empathy and listening to others.
Help your child by having them help others
Children who may feel helpless can feel empowered by helping others.
Maintain a daily routine
Sticking to a routine can be comforting to children, especially younger children who crave structure in their lives.
Take a break
While some anxiety can motivate us to take positive action, we also need to validate all feelings.
Teach your child self-care
Teach your child the importance of basic self-care.
Move toward your goals
Teach your child to set reasonable goals and help them to move toward them one step at a time.
Nurture a positive self-view
Help your child remember ways they have successfully handled hardships in the past. Then help them understand that these past challenges help build the strength to handle future challenges.
Keep things in perspective and maintain a hopeful outlook
Even when your child is facing very painful events, help them look at the situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective.
Look for opportunities for self-discovery
Tough times are often when children learn the most about themselves.
Change often can be scary for children and teens. Help your child see that change is part of life. New goals can replace goals that have become unattainable. American Psychological Association
Building Up Employee Resilience
Recognize the Importance of Employee Resilience
The first step to ensuring long-term company resilience is recognizing the degree to which employees contribute to business continuity. Staff is a company’s greatest asset. Flexibility and adaptability are at the core of workforce resilience.
Business resilience can be defined as:
Adaptability to change
Ability to execute effectively during a crisis
Capacity to recover from setbacks
2. Nurture a Culture of Resilience
Although resilience comes naturally to many people, this trait can be taught and acquired through workshops and changes in attitudes:
Organize workshops for employees. During workshops, the employees will explore work-related stressors and learn how to overcome them.
Provide support. Develop employee-support plans in case of disasters (e.g., offering housing, financial support, advice, as well as professional development). Support plans introduce a sense of stability and calm among employees, further contributing to their resilience
Include workforce resilience into the business continuity plan (BCP). Resilience-building programs should be an integral part of your business continuity plan
3. Develop a Framework for Employee Resilience
Breathe a sense of purpose. Explain what the company does and how it influences the customers and communities.
Help employees connect. Develop a dedicated network where employees can communicate with each other freely and support one another.
Instil ownership among staff. Accountability encourages staff to take initiatives and increases performance.
Be an example. With calm and decisive leadership that resonates with staff, the critical traits spread along the chain of command.
To employ the above resilience Framework successfully, communicate with your staff and explain in plain words the reasons why resilience is important. When employees see value and purpose behind adopting new processes, they are more likely to embrace change
4. Build a Resilient Workforce to Strengthen Company Operations
A resilient workforce means employees retain their productivity under pressure. They’re eager and open to accept changes and challenges, viewing them as ways to improve overall performance. Azeus Convene
How can I build my resilience?
Find a Sense of Purpose after a tragedy to bounce back. (See the definition.) It will play an important role in your recovery.
Believe in Your Abilities. Having confidence in your own ability to cope with the stresses of life can play an important part in resilience.
Develop a Strong Social Network. It’s important to have people you can confide in.
Embrace Change. Flexibility is an essential part of resilience.
Be Optimistic. Staying optimistic during dark periods can be difficult, but maintaining a hopeful outlook is an important part of resiliency.
Nurture Yourself. Make time for activities that you enjoy.
Develop Problem-Solving Skills. Research suggests that people who are able to come up with solutions to a problem are better able to cope with problems than those who cannot.
Establish Goals. Brainstorm possible solutions, and then break them down into manageable steps.
Take Action. start working on resolving the issue immediately.
Keep Working on Your Skills. Everyone can learn to be resilient. Resilience may take time to build. also remember to build on your existing strengths. Kendra Cherry Verywell Mind
Resilience can be discussed with your coach during your personal development meetings. It will only improve your quality of life and improve your employability in a more competitive labour market after Covid-19.
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” ― Steve Maraboli
“Enthusiasm is common. Endurance is rare.” ― Angela Duckworth
“Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the chance to work through difficult problems.” ― Gever Tulley
“A good half of the art of living is resilience.” ― Alain de Botton
“When we learn how to become resilient, we learn how to embrace the beautifully broad spectrum of the human experience.” ― Jaeda Dewalt
“Resilience is very different than being numb. Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt. You fall. But, you keep going.” ― Yasmin Mogahed
“Resilience is the ability to attack while running away.” ― Wes Fessler
“Resilience is based on compassion for ourselves as well as compassion for others.” ― Sharon Salzberg
“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough.” ― Og Mandino
“Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up.” ― Mary Holloway Driven